Archive for January, 2010

Changing Perspectives

Well we (my husband, our cats, Jack and Sydney, and myself) have moved!

We bought a house next door to the house we were renting.  We only moved 30 feet this year compared to 1500 miles last year.

The question, I’ve frequently been asked is,

“Was this short move easier or harder than the big move you made from Connecticut to Arkansas last year?”

My answer, “Moving is an incredibly complex process of change.”

I thought that since this was a conscious choice of deliberate change, it would be simpler and less overwhelming. Our move provided me with an opportunity for growth and insight.

Reflecting on the move, I view the process of change as having 5 stages:

  1. The Idea stage
  2. The Research and Planning stage
  3. The Action stage
  4. The Adjustment or Re-evaluation stage
  5. The Integration or Maintenance stage

I loved the idea stage with all the visioning and imagining. Once we had selected this house, I enjoyed arranging furniture on floor plans.

I enjoyed researching houses on line and planning the move in stages.

First, we moved the household basics over, the beds, table, sofa, bathroom and kitchen. This was great! The house was open and uncluttered, easy to clean. We even rearranged the functions of the rooms.

The largest bedroom became my office and the garage was converted to a media room for my husband.

The Action Stage

Ongoing actions of setting up each room became more difficult. Many decisions had to be made for each item. Do I want or need this? Where shall I put it? How to move it?

Dealing with the items that had been stored in the garage for a year was very difficult.

The move involved a lot of physical energy, an area that is not my strength. I started to feel overwhelmed and began thinking “I should…”

Shift In Thinking

Once I noticed that I was thinking “I should,” I stopped acting and started to write in my journal. I started writing my thoughts.

I should … became

I would like to…then

I think I would like to… then

I want to…then

I think I want to… then

I choose to….

When I got down to “I choose to”, I felt calmer and more peaceful. Then I was able to re-evaluate my actions. And I feel inspired to create a new vision board to activate desired lifestyle changes.

I would love to hear your experiences with changes. Where do you feel stuck? Where were you successful? Use the comments box below to share your thoughts.

Jan 15, 2010 | 0 comments View Post

What do “forensics” and “butterflies” have in common?

I recently finished watching an episode of Bones. I used to love reading mysteries, but I enjoy forensic shows even more. I love how uncovering one clue leads you to the next clue; leading you in directions that you never thought to go.

I believe that’s why I like inner exploring or self discovery. You uncover different aspects about yourself. One aspect of myself that I have come to appreciate is “my butterflyness”. I love to read and learn a lot about different topics. I get energized by positive information, different ways of thinking, new ideas for business and living.

Some people in my past thought that I did not have a focus.
But, I persisted in “my butterflyness”. A recent astrology reading noted that I’m supposed to be a butterfly sampling many things this lifetime. I believe it helps to form a non-judgmental perspective.

That’s why my business is called Your Healing Pathways.
The word heal comes from the Old English haelen, meaning “to make whole, sound and well”.

I would like to share with you a condensed version of what Alan Seale (Master Transformational Coach) has to say about healing. He makes the distinction between curing and healing.

  • To cure comes from the latin, cura, meaning to fix and return back to the way things were.
  • To heal, on the other hand, is to create wholeness.

Healing is truly about creating anew. Healing is not about fixing. It is about listening to the essence of “what is” and discerning what is trying to happen as part of an ongoing evolutionary process.

  • Click here to read Alan’s complete article from his newsletter- Full Spectrum Living – Dec. 2008

I believe that our purpose on earth is spiritual development. Our purpose is to let our light shine. I had heard that phrase so many times and could not connect at a deep level. Now I feel that let your light shine is to let your authentic self shine forth no matter how others perceive it. Let “your uniqueness”, “your butterflyness” shine forth.

I believe that as we open to healing, there are many paths we follow on our pathway of development. There are different paths for different times in our lives and some paths we may return to many times, others only once. We create our own unique mosaic for our life’s journey.

I also enjoy words and languages and meanings of words.
My friend and I sign our notes to each other. Namaste.
Namaste comes from Sanskrit and means “the light within me greets the light within you”. It is also used as a greeting. (see Wikipedia article)

Namaste

Jan 05, 2010 | 0 comments View Post